As we step into the holiday season, many of us face a classic question: Is bringing flowers for your host a thoughtful gesture, or does it add a task at an already busy time?
I recently posed this question on LinkedIn and Facebook, sparking a lively discussion. Here’s a look at the thoughtful responses and alternative suggestions from our Blooming community. Note: Responses have been lightly edited.
YES (But...):
Amy Zaroff, Experience Producer + Strategist "YES! But make it easy for your host. Flowers are best received when they’re already in a vase or delivered in advance. Bringing them in a loose wrap, expecting the host to hunt for a vase as guests arrive? That’s a HARD NO. A gift should never create extra work for the recipient."
Barbara Voorhees, Founder, CEO, and Consultant "As a former floral designer, I may be a bit biased, but flowers are always appreciated. Arriving before your arrival makes it even more accommodating for the host, who can simply enjoy your thoughtful gift."
Judy Zimmer, Global Executive-Leadership Coach "Yes to flowers every day! Giving and receiving them brings joy."
Pam Stegora Axberg, CEO, Union Gospel Mission Twin Cities "A thoughtful gesture, like flowers, reflects the kindness of the giver. I don’t find grabbing a vase an inconvenience; it’s all part of welcoming guests with warmth."
Jodi Livon, The Happy Medium "I love receiving flowers, especially when they’re already in a vase. In fact, I keep extra vases from the dollar store just for such occasions."
Amalia Moreno-Damgaard, Award-Winning Author "In many cultures, flowers signify respect, appreciation, and love. When gifting, it’s thoughtful to consider the host’s preferences or cultural background. Choose flowers that align with the celebratory nature of the gathering."
NO (But...):
Anthony R. Whelihan, Celebrity Portrait Artist and Party Host Extraordinaire "Cut flowers are a definite NO. The host shouldn’t have to step away to arrange them. A potted plant, however, makes a lasting impression—like the rosemary plant we’ve kept for two years that our chef Tim uses to flavor dishes."
Mary Verstraete, PCC "Finding a vase, trimming stems, and arranging flowers could feel overwhelming for a busy host. If you bring an arrangement ready to display, it’s a beautiful gesture."
Bethany Nelson-Lieser, 2nd Chance Sober Living Resources "Some may have allergies, or the flowers may wilt during transportation. If you know the host well and they love flowers, it’s thoughtful. Otherwise, consider a small potted plant or another gift that doesn’t require immediate attention."
Alternatives to Flowers:
Robyn Poffenberger Owings "As a festive gift, I often bring decorative paper napkins with a coordinating appetizer spreader. They can use them right away or save them for another occasion."
Donna Peterson "Consider a good bottle of wine or an autumn-scented candle. Flowers are lovely but do require attention."
A Thoughtful Warning:
John Plut "I enjoy cut flowers, but remember, some can be toxic to pets like cats."
A great point, John. In our next issue of Blooming, we’ll share the Dos and Don’ts of holiday blooming plants for gift giving, with pet safety in mind!
Thank you for sharing your insights and helping us navigate the etiquette of holiday gifting. I hope these tips inspire you to bring joy without adding stress to your next festive gathering.
Meanwhile, what’s your favorite floral gift?
I’d love to know as we continue to Bloom Together Through Every Season!
Diana
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